Tanya, Sue gave you a tremendous lot about this Joughin family in her first posting, but as you point out, the link between your family and the one she describes is missing. As Sue later suggested, the marriage between John Kelly and Emily Joughin should give the clue, and indeed it does. The entry at Braddan for 1873 July 6th reads:
John Kelly; full age; bachelor; mariner; address New Bond Street, Douglas; father John Kelly, boatman.
Emily Christian Joughin; full age; spinster; [no occupation]; address Princes Street, Douglas; father Robert Joughin, miller.

James Joughin and Margaret Crowe, mentioned at the top of Sue’s first posting, had 7 children, including Robert, baptised at Braddan 1828 Dec 21. In 1841 we find Robert at the Halfway House, Santan, with his father, then a publican, mother and siblings. In 1851 he is at St. Helena Cottage, Ballaughtin, Braddan, journeyman miller, servant of the miller and corn dealer whose name looks like James Cowrie. Alas, the next reference comes on a headstone in Braddan New Yard, no. 661 as recorded in the IoMFHS book of MIs. I noted it as follows:
Robert son of James and Margaret Joughin died through an accident at Ballaughtin Mills 1851 Sept 15th aged 22; also the said Margaret Joughin died 1858 Feb. 24th. aged 65; also James Joughin, her husband, died 1868 April 10th aged 72; also Robert, youngest son, died 1877 March 18th aged 17.

Anyone reading that stone might be puzzled by the dates. Robert, the youngest son, must have been born 1859 March 19th at the earliest, but his mother apparently died over a year earlier. The answer is that although he was the youngest son of James, he was not the son of the Margaret on the headstone (Margaret Crowe). His mother was a different Margaret, Margaret Christian (see Sue’s first posting). After the death of his first wife, James lost no time in re-marrying, not that he needed to find a mother for his children, who by then were all grown up, some with children of their own. His second marriage, at Braddan 1858 August 15th, to Margaret Christian, spinster of full age, daughter of John Christian, hatter, produced this younger Robert in 1859, baptised at Braddan Dec. 23rd. The youngster only lived to be 17, outlived by his mother. To go back to the 1861 census as noted by Brian Lawson in his first posting, Brian either misread the entry, or didn’t believe what he saw (understandably), for Robert was recorded as James’s son, not grandson.

Coming back to Emily, the censuses tell us that she was 9 in 1861 and 28 in 1881. If both ages are correct, the 1861 census must have been held later in the year than the 1881. Some one will know. That places her birth in the Spring of 1852. In that case she would have been conceived in Summer, 1851, not long before her father had his fatal accident. If he had survived, he would probably have married the mother well before the birth. What is needed is for some one to sit down with the Braddan baptisms register for 1852, or a film of it, and look carefully for an Emily who might be this one. It could be that the name Christian could be a gesture towards her father’s stepmother, still alive at the time of her marriage. Or it could have to do with Emily’s mother, whose name has yet to be found.